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Friday’s Free Refill: Who is Mother’s Day For Anyway?

The second Sunday in May is not the only day Mothers can be celebrated. Mother’s Day is every day! Hold out your cup and ask for what you need then you’ll have plenty to pour for others. Cheers!

Seven years ago I decided that Mother’s Day was about me, not my mom, or my mother-in-law. Before you freak out on me and think I am an ingrate, allow me to tell you more.

The “holiday” was stressing me out. Go here for breakfast, do this for lunch, go there for dinner, all to honor and fit in everyone. My hubby felt like he had to honor all three of the moms in his life, me (the mother of his children), his own mother and his mother-in-law. Well, nothing stresses him out more than cramming everything into one day. Nothing stresses me out more than being with stressed out people. I was receiving “stuff” he “thought” I wanted, which left me feeling unnoticed. Don’t they know what I want? I was cranky, feeling bitter and underappreciated.

That was the year I changed it up. I asked for what I needed from my family and I offered what I could to the two moms in my life. I honored my mom and mother-in-law with quality time, phone calls, flowers, words of affirmation the days precedding the Hallmark Holiday. The day before I attended a yoga retreat. An entire day of focusing on me and not taking care of others. Heaven. Then on the actual day I asked for my favorite meal and a trip to the beach. Terryaki and saltwater, simple. I was grateful for being heard and I felt like a queen.  

Around that time I was also hearing from clients, friends and other moms that they were dreading the actual “day” because they weren’t doing what they wanted. Story after story of being happy when Mother’s Day was actually over.

Stress comes from adhering to shoulds. Overwhelm comes from doing what you don’t want to do.

I invite you to ask yourself what you can give this year then take a big breath and ask what you would like to receive. And if you even feel “guilty” about wanting to be alone, wanting to do nothing, wanting something not up to the typical Mother’s Day protocol, I will hunt you down and give you a BIG, FAT PERMISSION SLIP.

Ask for what you need. Offer what you can. It’s one day, but it can be a day of joy rather than a day of obligation and should. I invite you to choose joy.

Hello! I’m Jenny Gwinn McGlothern, Certified Transformational Master Coach for your Life and Spirit. I have been leading retreats for women and coaching them since 2009. One of my favorite ways to fill my own cup is by writing. May my weekly blog give you a sip to reflect, a nugget to chew, a thought to refill. If it is an accountability partner you seek, I offer life and spiritual coaching for men, women, teenagers, and couples, in person in Seattle and by phone.  

A Mother’s Cup

My new cup.

Today is the last day of regular season English Premier Soccer League. I know you are excited. I am, for reasons that have nothing to do with the games. As my family hands me my cards, mug of coffee, and showers me with songs and kisses I learn this soccer news. We will be down stairs watching the game while you meditate, write, read or whatever you want to do, my husband tells me before 7 this morning.

He gets me. He knows how I like to start my day. He knows what I need. Never mind that he too is incredibly happy right now watching soccer as I write this. Yes, soccer fills that lucky guy’s cup.

Giving me my handmade Mother’s Day gift my son says to me, It’s a cup, mama…for your business.

My new red cup made in art class with love sits on our windowsill. Not only a reminder to pay attention to my own needs but that others are aware too. They hear us when we make a point of acting on our own needs and desires. If we let them they will support us. They will fashion a cup out of clay with their little fingers and pinch together the love from their heart to make their  mama her very own cup.